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Phyllis Miglarese Stanley TUSCALOOSA, AL - Phyllis Miglarese Stanley, age 70, of Tuscaloosa, died Monday, Jan. 14, 2013, at her home. A mass of the Resurrection will be held Thursday, Jan. 17, 2013, at 12 noon at Holy Spirit Catholic Church in Tuscaloosa, where following, the family will receive friends at a reception in the Parish Hall. A subsequent funeral mass will be held at St. Mary's Catholic Church in Hampton, S.C. Saturday, Jan. 19, 2013 at 1:30 p.m. Burial will immediately follow at Hampton County Cemetery. The family will receive friends at St. Mary's Catholic Church Parish Hall following the burial. She was preceded in death by her father, John Miglarese. She is survived by her mother, Louise Miglarese; her husband, Thomas Griffin Stanley Jr.; her two children, Laura Stanley Van de Planque and Thomas Griffin Stanley III; grandchildren, Katherine Stanley, Thomas Griffin Stanley IV, James Van de Planque, John Van de Planque, and William Van de Planque; her daughter-in-law, Pam Eich Stanley; son-in-law, Michael C. Van de Planque; sister, Paula Miglarese Cope; sisters-in-law, Sally Stanley Dobson, Ann Hale Miglarese, and Shelia Miglarese; brothers, John Miglarese and Sam Miglarese; brothers-in-law, Robert G. Cope, Allan F. Stanley, Barney M. Stanley, and Philip H. Stanley; and many nieces, nephews, and great-nieces and great-nephews. Phyllis was born in Cincinnati, Ohio and grew up in Port Allegheny, Pennsylvania and Hampton, South Carolina. She was a graduate of Wade Hampton High School and the College of Notre Dame of Maryland where she received a Bachelor of Arts in Art. During her early career, she was an elementary school teacher in Brevard, North Carolina and beginning in 1978, worked with the Tuscaloosa County Board of Education as an Adult Education teacher and ultimately, retired as Director of the department. She was a leader in the Project Literacy US program for West Alabama and an instructor of Adult Education with Shelton State Community College. In addition to being a devoted wife, mother, grandmother, and friend, Phyllis was a tireless volunteer throughout the West Alabama community. She was a longtime member of Holy Spirit Catholic Church where she was involved in many ministries and most particularly the building of the new church in 2010. As a member of the Junior League of Tuscaloosa, Aglaia Junior Women's Club, and others, as well as her children's schools, she was constantly serving others. In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations to the Holy Spirit Catholic Church Building Fund in Tuscaloosa, or to St. Mary's Catholic Church in Hampton, S.C., or to the Foundation for Mitochondrial Medicine in Atlanta, Ga. Visit our guestbook at www.legacy.com/obituaries/ charleston

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Published by Charleston Post & Courier from Jan. 16 to Jan. 17, 2013.

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Ted Petoskey

January 31, 2013

Grif
I have been away from my e-mail for the last two weeks and just saw the message from the alumni association. I'm so sorry to learn of the passing of Phyllis. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

Jim and Zoe Breugem

January 29, 2013

A beautiful lady we will remember as having a loving & caring heart for her family and she took in the neighborhood as family and led our direction in many endeavors as well as reaching out to other neighborhoods in the city. Phyllis was a leader and we are thankful for her life. Blessed that we could call her our friend & neighbor. So sorry for her loss to the family and friends.

Becky Dannenfelser

January 24, 2013

Laura and all the Stanley clan- we feel your pain in this devastating loss! She was a woman to be loved and admired as evidenced by all who knew her. May God be with you as you mourn her passing.

January 24, 2013

Phyllis was a lovely member of our class at Notre Dame. She lit up any space with her warm,happy nature. She came home with me for Thanksgiving our freshman year to Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, and my family immediately loved her. Please accept my sincere condolences in this sad time. I will always remember Phyllis' welcoming smile.
Rest in peace, dear lady.

Mary Kay Shartle Galotto, Class of '64.

Charlotte Seth

January 20, 2013

I remember Phyllis at the College of Notre Dame. She was very kind to me..her wide smile and her artistic soul. I shall keep you all in my prayers. Charlotte Bodenlos Seth, Roanoke, Va, CND Class of 1964

January 20, 2013

Griff, Charlotte and I have you, Laura, and your entire family in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. Jimmy Compton

Kathy Kernan

January 19, 2013

Phyllis was a fellow art student and we met from time to time at class reunions. She and her family will be in my prayers.

Karine Gilles

January 19, 2013

Laura, All my thoughts to you and your family at this time.
I met your mother in 1993 and I will always remember her bright eyes and her beautiful smile. Much Love.

Vera W. Alston

January 18, 2013

My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. Sorry to hear of the sudden death of Phyllis M. Stanley.

Pamela Bosze Chesky

January 18, 2013

Phyllis was my roommate in our junior year at Notre Dame. I had just transfered in and...as you can imagine...she was my friend, my mentor, my teacher and my guide all during that year. Phyllis will be remembered for her magical smile, her big brown eyes and love of life! My heart goes out to all the Miglareses and Stanleys, I know you are feeling the loss of Phyllis. God bless you all.

January 18, 2013

A personal loss beyond compare. Our prayers are with your family!
Much love,
Dan and Dru Propst
Land O Lakes, FL

pat & bob

January 17, 2013

Griff and family;

Know that our thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

Jimmy Jordan

January 17, 2013

Grif, so sorry to hear of your loss. May God Bless you and give you comfort in the days ahead.

January 17, 2013

Phyllis was a college friend ....I will always remember her sunny smile and incredibly positive outlook. I remember holding her hand to cross Charles Street ....she used to say she was not used to big cities! Lots of laughs and singing...just a wonderful person. God bless her family. Love Peggy Plunkett Bauersfeld

Linda Young Haskins

January 17, 2013

My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.

Fr. Jesus Rodriguez, S.J.

January 17, 2013

She will be greatly missed. I offered Mass for the repose of soul this morning in Rome. May the family know the peace and consolation of the Lord.

Billy Owen

January 17, 2013

Miss Louise and ALL of the family I wish to express my condolences for your loss. I remember Phyillis as a beautiful woman inside and out. My love to you all.

Lawrence Armstrong

January 17, 2013

My thoughts and prayers go out to the family. I recall having Phyllis "try" to teach me to shag for my 8th grade school dance. I will always remember her smile and helpful spirit. Her family in Hampton, SC are in my prayers too.

Allen Banks

January 17, 2013

I cannot imagine how many lives she touched, she was very helpful to me when she taught GED classes at the old county high on 15th St. Thank you dear family for sharing her with us, and Mrs Stanley for your true dedication in helping others to reach their full potential in life. Truly a sweet and patiebt lady. Fond menories, rest in peace. My thoughts and prayers are with the family.

Paula Turnham

January 16, 2013

I served with Phyllis in Aglaia MANY years ago & still have the "Easter egg" with my name that Phyliss gave to her committee members that year. I am sure she is already organizing a special group of angels for work right now!

Marsha Smith Speares

January 16, 2013

Grif, I remember the happy girl at WHHS that smiled at everyone. She was so out-going and cute. Bless you and your family in the days to come.

Andy and Beth Simon

January 16, 2013

My sincere condolences to you Griff and your children. Phyllis was a great example of the perfect neighbor. She was a wonderful teacher and has taught me so much in the 10 short years we have lived next door. I can not imagine the projects she is working on in Heaven. I will miss her terribly. Rest In Peace Phyllis.

JW and Carol Cole

January 16, 2013

Our family moved to Tuscaloosa in 1996 and I went to work for Griff. Phyllis and Griff were always quick to do anything to help us, and our 4 kids. They even took time to attend their high school graduations. Phyllis always happy, positive and energetic has been an wonderful example to us. Out thoughts and prayers are with her family at this time. She will be missed but what she gave throughout her life will live on forever.

janice wolsoncroft

January 16, 2013

Phyllis was my best friend for forty years. I will miss her every day.

Sandra Day

January 16, 2013

I had the honor of knowing Phyllis when she worked so tirelessly at Shelton State. She brought sunshine and joy whenever she walked in a room. She will be truly missed and the world lost a special lady when God called her home to be with him. My prayers and love go out to the family of this remarkable lady.

Linda Hardwick

January 16, 2013

I have fond memories of just being a part of the Tuscaloosa Co. Bd. of Education meetings to help Phyllis market Adult Education . She was definately a "Cheerleader" and strived to make this world a better place. She loved life and influenced more people than she probably even knew.

Sherry Kirksey

January 16, 2013

I worked with Phyllis at Shelton State many years ago. She was beautiful inside and out. I always thought she was a saint. My prayers are with her family.

Gary and Teresa Blaylock

January 16, 2013

I used to work for Griff and was honored to have met Phyllis. She was one of the warmest and sweetest people I have ever known. Griff and family, please accept Gary and my condolences... Blessings to you.

January 16, 2013

I worked with Phyllis at Shelton State. She was beautiful lady, inside and out.

Peggy Carden

January 16, 2013

A good person and a great Teacher. Will miss her.

Betty Moss

January 16, 2013

Some of the most wonderful memories in my life were with my friend Phyllis in Brevard NC. Her smile, laughter and love of life were contagious each time I was around her. My young son adored both Phyllis & Griff and greeted them with "What doin". Over the years Phyllis always greeted me with this special greeting.

My prayers are wtth Griff, Griffin, Laurel and all the family during this time.

Reggie Mitchell

January 16, 2013

We have lost a good soldier and friend. Rest well Phyllis! Many prayers for her family.

January 16, 2013

Dear Family,
Being married to Phyllis's cousin, Don, I enjoyed the love and friendship of Phyllis. She was one of the most fabulous women I have ever known and I will miss her deeply. We are all blessed to have Phyllis touch our lives. Her family brought her the greatest joy. I shall never forget her.
Love, Debbie Jacob

Lena Miller powers

January 16, 2013

So sorry to hear about the passing of your mother. I was always so fond of her.

January 16, 2013

May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.

Jane Phillips

January 16, 2013

I am so sorry to hear of Ms. Phyllis' passing. I never met a nicer, more caring, unselfish woman. She served our Lord well in her short life along with those of us that had the pleasure of knowing her. Ms. Phyllis had more energy and "go get 'em" spirit than anyone I've ever known!

My mother (Ruth Phillips) spoke highly of Ms. Phyllis during her teaching years at Holy Spirit, and was amazed at what she could get done in a very short length of time. Mama knew she could count on Ms. Phyllis any time.

Thank you for all you've done for so many, Ms. Phyllis!

Rest in Peace.

January 16, 2013

Dear, dear Phyllis. What a loss to the family, her community and her many friends. It was so valuable to have Phyllis on any project, team, club,committee, or as a "cheerleader" to inspire and promote others. My sincerest condolences to her family. I was and will always be honored to call her my friend. Jennifer Pederson

Darryl Hardin

January 16, 2013

Dear Family Members:
I met Phyllis and Griff when I owned an antique store in Northport. They were two of the nicest people to come into my store. My thoughts and prayers will be with all of you.

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