Nancy Harlan Obituary

you will always be alive in our hearts....

Hi David, Deborah and James, this is Miranda, we are cousins and unfortunately have lost contact over the years. We probably saw each other 35 years ago or so. I hope this note reaches you and you all are well. I am so sorry to hear about Nancy and I am happy to hear she had such a full and rich life with family, friends and interests. It's been wonderful reading all the stories about her. Today I decided to look her up on the internet because after my immediate family has grown and off to college, I wanted to be in contact. I am thinking of visiting Franklin this Summer because of a trip I am taking to the east coast and I would like to visit where my mom was buried. If you like please be in touch.

111 Seton Way
Santa Cruz CA 95060

Take Care,

Dear David, Debbie and Jamie,
Your Mother was such a wonderful friend for such a long time. We raised our young families together in Franklin, PA and although we didn't see each other often in later years, we still kept in touch. Nancy was someone who could make the miles and time melt away with a phone call and we would find ourselves laughing and not missing a beat when we'd be on the phone together. I will always treasure her friendship. Uncle Charlie and I both send our love and prayers to each one of you. I;m so glad that the last time we were together with them in Mt. Pleasant, they took us out to Christ Church Cemetery so we can visualize where you will all be gathering. Wish we could join you. We are moving next week to a continual care home in Tampa. I'll send you the address in your Christmas card. Special Love to each or you, Aunt Bonnie and Uncle Charlie

Mom guided me at every major event in my life. She had standards (Emily Post was always in attendance) but also a sense of humor. We had fun whether planning my wedding or helping me care for James and Sarah when born. She was not only there for me but my family as well. She and Dad completely spoiled my children at every opportunity. That included many trips to Chucky Cheese and waiting in line at 6am to grab the toy of the moment at toys r us. As they aged her generosity grew as well. At the end of her life I will remember her self deprecating sense of humor and her wit. She had her friends at the retirement community laughing at every meal.

Thank you so much David... your mom was a wonderful friend and " more fun than a barrel of monkeys"... know you will miss her but be rich in memories!
(((Hugs))) to all your family!
Will take care of adding her name to the flower list here..,,
Kaycee

David-So sorry to hear about your mother. Thankful that she was peaceful and that we had such a lovely visit with her and be with you and Maya and finally meet Debi and Bruce. Please accept our sympathies to you and all the family. We always enjoyed our visits with Nancy and will always remember her for her spirit and love of family and friends.
Best to you and all the Harlans-
Barbara and Harry

Dear David, Fred and I were devastated to hear of Nancy's death. We just did not want to believe she wasn't going to get out of that hospital! We both send you our sympathies - Nancy was a wonderful mother who absolutely lived to see - and loved to see - the best for her children and her grandchildren. I know there is a huge hole in your world now. We pray that the time comes quickly when you can look back with love and smiles and remember all the special and beautiful times with her. May God give you his strength and peace. God Bless you all, Pat and Fred

Memories: My memories of Nancy are in two memory folders: one folder contains memories of Nancy as my friend - as another woman and mother, as a neighbor, as members of our Creekside bridge group since the 1970's. The other folder contains memories that Fred and I share together of Nancy and Dave. - again, as Creekside neighbors, as couples who dined together, went on trips together,etc.

What I remember most about Nancy is that she was a gentle, loving, caring person who always had great concern for other peoples' peace of mind or their welfare. It could be husband, children or grandchildren, or neighborhood problems or politics - the way Nancy just generally treated people - with great respect and again, always with concern for their well-being. I loved Nancy; I liked Nancy; I respected Nancy!

As part of that great couple known as Nancy and Dave, she was the perfect - her perfect half - of that couple. As long as he was alive, she was sure that he came first on her list of care and concerns - love and duty - were her code. We enjoyed a couple of trips with them to Savannah, Beaufort or Kiawah, etc., along with Sara and Cleve Hutson. . . totally simpatico!

We both feel we were lucky to have had Nancy, and Dave, in our lives. God Bless them both! Pat Scott

When I picture my grandmother, I picture her talking on the phone with both of us just laughing. We saw each other irregularly but it was effortless to be able to catch up as if we had been close friends for decades.

I will always treasure the relationship we had and will miss having her on the other end of the line with her easy laugh and quick wit.

With love,

Briggs

From Jim and Jennifer:

Always reveled in our travels and long trips with Nancy, drinking margaritas in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico; dining on lobsters in Bar Harbor, Maine; drinking Sazeracs at the Roosevelt Hotel in New Orleans; and eating steaks with big red wine in New York - we always traveled as friends.

Also remembering the night before our wedding, when she climbed into our bed to smoke cigars with her.

Jennifer Harlan

Bonnie kindly sent me word of your mother and I am so very sorry to have lost such a dear friend. Please know that you,Deb and Jamie have my deepest sympathy and love. Nancy was a loyal friend of many years and although we were not able to see each other often we had grand times when we were together. Phone visits kept us in touch otherwise. She had a wonderful and unique way of thinking and expressing herself. I shall always remember her great sense of humor and how we laughed so together. I will truly miss her. Your parents were very special people who will live forever in my heart.

Again,my sympathy and much love.

Dot Noble

We're sorry to hear you lost your Mom. Please accept our deepest condolences.

As you can imagine, my earliest memories include all of you Harlan's! Interestingly, when I talked to my Dad yesterday, he shared that Nancy met Charlie when he was 3 years old so she is in his earliest memories, too. Charlie said he lost the person who knew him the longest

I can still remember Aunt Nancy's wonderful laugh!

Sincerely,
Mark Hough

I am sad to share the news of David's mother's peaceful passing with you in the early hours of Tuesday. Nancy Harlan was a dignified and strong woman. She was tirelessly interested, curious, up to date with the world, smart, loving and generous. She was good at sharing her love to her family, friends and community. We will all miss her very much. I know there will be quite a few 'what would mom/grandma say/think' conversations around our table in years to come. David, Briggs and Maya will especially miss her sense of humor and their ability to make her laugh so much. She was a great beach bum! Sleep with the stars Nancy...
A. Defne Veral

Your mother was a dear person and I am distressed to learn of her death. The last time I saw her was 3-4 Sundays ago. After she got in the car to return to the Gardens we found she had left her jacket and I dropped it off for her. Funny how one remembers small incidents like that.
We loved having your mom as part of our community. She was a faithful Christian and she will be missed by us here at St Thomas. May she Rest In Peace and rise in glory.
Bless you and the family.
Lex Breckinridge+

Dear David,

We were all so surprised that your mother passed away so suddenly after going to the hospital, but it was a blessing that she did not suffer for long. I had talked to her by phone when you and your daughter were there and she really enjoyed your excursions to see the Terracotta warriors and the Boeing museum.

We will all miss her so much, but we have wonderful memories of our times together. Your mother, Carol Stanford and I had some fun trips to Sugar Mountain, Lake Lure, St. Augustine and other places in the mountains. We also had many outings to the movies and for dinner afterwards at the Longhorn Restaurant where your mother ordered a filet. She and I did water zumba together before her stroke. We all visited with your mother at our monthly bridge gatherings and also on special celebratory occasions. Your mother was a loyal friend and we all enjoyed being with her!

Hopefully, it is not too late to pass on some of her qualities to the Christ Church minister. She loved your father dearly and they had such a wonderful marriage. She missed him so much! She was a good mother to her children. She had a sparkling, delightful personality with a superb sense of humor. She was funny and always made us smile. She was cheerful and positive, looking at the bright side of life, even when life was difficult.

I hope the Christ Church minister knows what your father did in maintaining and improving the condition of the cemetery.

I look forward to seeing you next Tuesday. Please accept my sympathy/empathy for your loss! May God give you His peace and comfort as you grieve.

Betty

We are so sad about your Mother. We are in Fla. visiting Margaret and grands. We do plan to be home for the FUNERAL. FOR THE MINISTER----------Nancy and Dave were our next door neighbors on Scottland Dr. for many years. The Harlan's seldom locked their house. Our Margaret would visit often with them unaware she was over the garage playing. Nancy had a great sense of humor. She laughed and made others happy. She was very kind and generous. Nancy loved the friendliness of the South! We will miss her. See all on Tuesday. Mike and Martha Williams