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Michael Ashby Farrow

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James A. McAlister Cremation

1620 Savannah Highway

Charleston, South Carolina

Michael Farrow Obituary

Michael Ashby Farrow PAGELAND, SC - It's over now, Mikey, the strangled cries late at night, the sudden violence. It's over. As you descended ever further into confusion, you grew stronger. You could embrace someone with all the love in the universe, then snap their necks. The next moment, your Lenny-like lumbering charming visage would peer down puzzled that the object of your affection was inert. Sadly the light of your gentle, loving nature was overcome by your size and your unpredictability and so you began the odyssey of institutions spanning distance and devolution until over a decade ago, you landed in an obscure group home in an obscure South Carolina county where you met a case worker, Mary Katherine Bagnal, who actually cared and loved you. You will never know the pain your parents felt as their denial began to crumble like an old Charleston wall. You were to be the golden boy, the one to carry the torch and as that flame slowly ebbed, they lashed out in that denial. You didn't know, but seven people's lives were profoundly and inextricably changed as they realized that all the love in the world cannot fix what will be. And so, they are all gone, Mikey, all who followed your life - Granny and Granddaddy, Nathan and Maybelle, Mommy and Daddy, they have all stood before their Creator and bathed in the brilliance of wisdom and purity. Where you are now, your child-like innocence allowing you entree like a back stage pass. Only one of us is left above ground as Mommy put it. Like all of us, your older brother felt that responsibility of failing you somehow, that if only things had been different... But they weren't. Mary Katherine and I could not save you, but we will rip the system apart to get retribution for you and so many others like you. You can rest in the arms of Jesus now, Mikey. The crying and confusion are over. The cry for justice has just begun. The relatives and friends of Michael Ashby Farrow are invited to attend his Funeral Service at 11:00 AM, Friday, May 16, 2014 at the Graveside St. Philip's Churchyard. Michael's guestbook may be signed at www.JamesAMcAlister.com. Arrangements by James A. McAlister, Inc. 766-1365. Visit our guestbook at www.legacy.com/obituaries/ charleston

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Published by Charleston Post & Courier from May 13 to May 14, 2014.

Memories and Condolences
for Michael Farrow

23 Entries

betsy chandler

May 20, 2014

Sending all love and healing wishes.

Chandler.

jack wilson

May 17, 2014

David, so sorry for your loss. No explanations for a loved one taken so young.

Daniel Hydrick

May 16, 2014

Thoughts and Prayers David.

bobby linker

May 16, 2014

thoughts and prayers with you david

Betsy Haywood

May 15, 2014

David, my deepest sympathies and prayers to you over your loss.

Betsy Fernald

May 15, 2014

My prayers are with you. I am so sad for you and the family.

Chris Sosnowski

May 15, 2014

I'm sorry for your loss, David. I hope you find solace as friends and family gather around you.

martha brouthers

May 15, 2014

David,
My prayers are with you.
Martha

Grange Simons, 111 Lucas

May 14, 2014

David,
For you I hope you can find a measure of peace during this ordeal.

Leonie Gill

May 14, 2014

Dear David,
Frank and I are so sorry for your loss. We send sincerest condolences, heartfelt love, and prayers for healing.

'rie james-roane

May 14, 2014

David, I am so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful message you wrote for your brother. It inspired me, as I'm sure it inspired many others. God's Peace, my friend.

Jane Thornhill

May 14, 2014

David,
The Thornhills and Schachtes send their deepest sympathy with the passing of Michael. We pray for God's love to surround you and your family to bring you comfort during this difficult time. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Blessings

kirsti ortiz

May 14, 2014

Mike was a very kind and lovable person. He is greatly missed and will not fade in our memories. I have worked with and known him for 13 years. It is so sad that Mike is no longer physically with us but we will keep him in our hearts. We love you Mike!!!!!! Prayers to those who truly love and care for him.

Thea Taylor

May 14, 2014

David I am very sorry for your loss. Your brother will now have peace with God. Sending thoughts and prayers.

Emily Paulling

May 14, 2014

praying for God's peace for you and your family

Chris Snedeker

May 14, 2014

Laurie and I send our prayers to you, David.
"For in hope we have been saved, but hope that is seen is not hope; for who hopes for what he already sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, with perseverance we wait eagerly for it. In the same way the Spirit also helps our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words;…"
May God's peace and grace abound in you in this time.

Beau Booker

May 14, 2014

Dave – Your mom's obituary was beautiful. Mikey's is profound. I'll ever remember her trying to get him to play with me 50 years ago and realizing oh so incompletely at age eight that something just wasn't right. Blessings. Beau

Henry Ravenel

May 14, 2014

Sorry David!

Katharine Hutson

May 14, 2014

So very sorry David. Peace be with both you and Mikey. All love.

David Moltke-Hansen

May 14, 2014

Mikey was all innocence, affection, and eruption when I knew him as a little boy. What a terrible loss, David. My heart goes out to you.

Nancy Lynch Powell

May 14, 2014

David, So sorry for your loss. Sending love and prayers. I hope you find peace.