Jeffrey Parsons Obituary

Jeffrey's Eulogy
How do you know what to say about the person that you loved and needed most in the world? There is so much to say but it is very difficult when you know the one thing you have to say is also the hardest thing you will ever say. How exactly do you say good-bye, I will miss you, I know I will never see you again?

It is important to me that everyone here today understands how much Jeffrey meant to me and why.

Ten years ago when I meant Jeff, I had no idea the changes that were about to happen to me. Meeting Jeff was perhaps the single most significant event in my life.

We did so much together…creating so many memories that will be stay with me forever. Our vacations, especially the cruises, are some of my favorite times to remember. The time we spent with our friends was priceless to Jeff. No better friends exist than Peggy, Lenny, Liz, Jim, Gail, Doug, Gerry and Don. He knew how lucky we were to have them in our lives. Our families and friends were such an intricate part of our life together.

I remember when I met Jeff’s family for the first time. We spent the day at Longwood Gardens with Sally, Aunt Karen, Eric, Analise and of course, Grandmom Olson. A day that could have been very difficult and awkward, they made very easy and relaxing. The moment that I laid eyes on Grandmom Olson I understood Jeff’s admiration for her and his aspiration to emulate her. She was impeccable…in every way. It was clear where Jeffrey learned the art of being flawless. Jeff loved and respected all of his family very much. Our trips to be with his family were always greatly anticipated and treasured. I am so sorry that the newest member of the family, his nephew Wesley, will never have the privilege of knowing his Uncle.


To speak of Jeff’s family is also to speak of Marie, Lee, Michele and Nicole. They loved and cared for deeply for Jeff. He was so grateful to have them in his life.

Just as important to Jeff was his adopted family here in the North. My mom loved Jeff as her own son and he loved her right back. Sometimes I worried that he enjoyed a better relationship with her than I did. But then again, that was all part of who Jeff was…always charming, always charismatic. He had away about him that made you love him. You didn‘t have a choice really….it just happened.

He taught me so much about truth and dignity. Because of Jeff, I really learned to love myself and trust enough to share myself. What a gift he truly was to me. To open your heart to Jeff was to open your eyes to a whole new world. Each day with him was fuller and held more promise than the day before.

I know that a special love is usually a once in a lifetime. Jeffrey was just that to me…a once in a lifetime. I also know that I should be grateful to have had the gift of him for even a short while. Believe me, I thankful. I am just so sad and I will miss him so much.

I will miss his presence everyday. I will miss his habits and his quirks. I will miss his routines that were so predictable and reliable. I will miss how much he liked for things to be just so. I will miss his confidence and his wit. I will miss the way he entered a room and of course, the way he left it. I will miss his love for all that is lovely and all that is beautiful.

To know that I will never see him again…never hear his voice again is overwhelming. Today, the mere thought of that is unacceptable…not real. He simply can’t be gone.



It cant be true that we wont spend another day together. How can it be that we won‘t sit on our front porch together? Our house was a home because Jeffrey was there. I planted bulbs in the back yard to surprise him. I wanted so badly to watch him see them. Now they will be a memorial to Jeff…a remembrance. Someday I want the comfort of knowing that he does see them. That he is probably shaking his head, smiling and thinking that I planted them in the wrong order or too close together.

Jeff insisted on being remembered as the “Diva of all divas”. Truth be told, he was. However, he will also be remembered as a good man with a good heart. He was always true to himself and others. He had the integrity and the courage to be “just Jeff”. I always loved and admired that about him.

Today I am sadly without him. My heart is empty. The one person that could help me is the person that has left me broken. My best friend has gone to another place. I know that wherever he may be…he is happy and his wings are absolutely beautiful. I will miss Jeff and love him always.

September 8th was Jeffrey's birthday and 1 year since we bought our first house together. September 8, 2006 was one of the happiest days in our almost 10 years together. Jeffrey purchased the house of is dreams on his birthday. A 3 bedroom Victorian home, we did so much work to the house with family and friends help. We had so many conversations about what else we where going to do to the house, and the yard. Jeffrey loved to garden and watch the flowers start to bloom in our other house (rented) I would hear him yell from the back door BUBBY come and see, look it's starting to pop up. He was so excited to see the blooms he would water and feed the flowers all the time. I started the garden in the fall at our new house and the blooms started to pop up this spring, it was not as exciting to watch the flowers grow this year as it was in the past. The only reason I continued the garden this summer was in Jeffrey’s memory, I made a memorial area in the yard that has hydrangeas, Hosta and a Bleeding Heart, (Jeffrey’s favorite flowers) I look at them often and it brings tears to my eyes knowing you where not hear with me to enjoy them. I think of you every day and miss you with all my heart. You where the one person who loved me no matter what.. So many people never find that true love in there life, I know I had the true love of my life and will treasure that for the rest of my life! September 8th will never be the same to me again. It’s your BIRTHDAY and we always made a big deal about your day and it is the anniversary of our house and your not hear with me anymore! I will always cherish the great memories we made together. You taught me how to be myself, look at life differently and appreciate who and what I am. I will always remember that! I love you and always will! I miss you!
Love always Joe

It's taken me some time to find the courage to attempt to write my thoughts about Jeff, about what he meant to me, but Jeff is in my thoughts everyday, I miss him more each day. We were the best of friends, Peg and Len; Gayle and Doug; Jim and I; and Joe and Jeff. That's our group of friends. We were a team, we were supposed to be forever. When I think about the future, I keep picturing Jeff being there to share our life. His smile, his laughter, his joy...I can't imagine a world without him but yet I keep opening my eyes each morning and have to accept our loss. He was our Adonis, he was our Diva, he was our dear, wonderful friend. I am grateful for my cherished memories, I am grateful for the wonderful experience of knowing him so intimately, I am grateful for the opportunity of calling him my friend. Jeffrey was a loving and supportive friend to us. We miss you Jeff, we will never be the same without you. I pray that when my time comes your handsome face will be the first I see and we will be together again for eternity. Until then, please know that I will remember you always. With love from your devoted friend, Liz

WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE BECOMES A MEMORY,THE MEMORY BECOMES A TREASURE.

A HANDSOME GUY WITH A THOUSAND FRIENDS NONE OF WHOM HEARTS WILL EVER MEND.

JEFF WAS CHOSEN FOR A REASON,GOD HAD A PLAN,I WILL MISS JEFF FOR A MILLION REASONS HIS WISDOM,HIS ADVICE,OUR LONG TALKS,AND ESPICALLY HIS LAUGH.

IT WAS THE SADDEST DAY WHEN I GOT THE CALL ABOUT JEFF,BUT PLEASE REMEMBER IT WAS THE HAPPEIEST DAY FOR JEFF BECAUSE HE WAS GOING TO HEAVEN.

THANKS FOR ALL THOSE WONDERFUL MEMORIES THAT I WILL ALWAYS CHERISH. LOVE AND WILL MISS YOU

ANGIE
(AJ.WRIGHT)

I have been friends with Jeff for almost ten years and also,was his hairstylist. He was a genuine person. I always looked forward to seeing him and would try to mark the night off so we could catch up on things. He had an energy about him that was so wonderful that if you didn't know him you wanted too. He also had such confidence about himself that only people wished they could have in themselves. He will be greatly missed, but I can't help but smile when I think of him giving me the thumbs up after every hair appt. and it will always remain in my heart!!!

when joe first asked me to meet jeff i knew i would have to like him because he would be a part of joe's life forever. i never expected to fall in love with him. our group of 8 that spent so many vacations together will never be the same. i thank god i had the time with him that i did. i am so lucky to have had our private talks,our many laughs. i know he will always be around me and forever in my heart. so my friend if you are reading this i love you.
untill we meet again
peg

To Jeff's family and many friends. We will keep you and Jeff in our thoughts and prayers. Jeff will surely be missed by those who knew and loved him

JoAnn and Terry Stephenson

Jeff and I have been friends for 25 years. From the beginning I called him Jeffy. He was a true and faithful friend that never let me down. He was always there for me and we shared many good times. I will treasure my memories of him, especially his laugh.

I know they say time heals, but I know my heart will always carry the loss of Jeffy.

My thoughts and prayers are with his family, especially Sally and Joe, the ones that knew him best.

I have literally known Jeff my whole life. I was lucky enough that he and my Mom were wonderful friends and I came to know him through their relationship. Jeff always said, he was responsible for my sense of style so I am grateful for that gift. He will be sadly missed. My prayers are with his family, and Jeffy will always be in my heart.

Since I have known the family, I have known of Jeffrey's enthusiasm, generosity and good energy. I know he'll be missed by his family and friends and send loving wishes their way.

I met Jeff years ago through Kathie. I remember that no matter what was going on at the time, he could make you laugh and was such a joy to be around. I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

It was so sad to hear of Jeff's passing, he was the best man in my wedding, i will always remember him. To the family you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.