Jason Shand Obituary

Jason,

What can I say that has not already been said. Your friendship and love is what we all want to experience and share with someone. And in our breif time in this world we managed to touch that with you. You gave so freely of yourself. I can remember with such laughter today about our numerous big events with each other. You trying to tell a Christian your gay and me trying to explain it to my husband. We laughed for hours about how people would act or think. Then you were there for me in a very hard time in my life. I was separated from my husband, alone and heartbroken.My sister Paula You and Caroline were there to make sure that I was comforted and kept me sane. You stayed home with me and spent the night putting new locks on my doors. We joked, we laughed and then you just sat quiet as I Cried myself to sleep in your arms. I miss that person in my life.

But the stomach aching laughter at the resturant with Paula and Caroline when you told the waitress that I was crazy as hell and I was on drugs for deep depression. The girl never did ask me for my order, you just said she'll eat whatever you give her, just don't stare at her.

Jason, my heart will always be full of love for you. Chuck and I will always cheerish your friendship.

I see a Sister that mourns the loss of a truly wonderful friend and it makes me realize just how precious the people in our lives are.

Ms.Phyllis I can not think of any words that could possibly ease your pain. But you are a truly wonderful person for the son you raised and shared with us all these years. He was a joy. He loved you with every breath he breathed. But then I am sure you know that. I will say thank you for having such a great son that has touched the hearts of so many with love.

Jason was a kind southern gentleman, a good friend and will be missed. I only knew him for a few short years but that time was special. My condolences to his family and loved ones.

I just found about Jason and I wanted to express my condolences to the Shand family. Jason and I ran into each other only a couple of times since we left St. Johns and yes, he was STILL the same... funny and crazy, with such a BIG smile and a BIG personality to match.

jason was such a talented man. i

have always admired his creativity

and his lovely artwork. he was a

true southern gentleman.

we don't quite understand why God

decides to take our loved ones. my

thoughts would be that he called

jason home to enjoy his company,

and his kind heart.

My prayers go out to all of Jason's

family and friends.

I believe in angels yes you know it's true,

The kind that heaven sends like the one i found in you,

I know i am surrounded by angels,

I know becouse of you,

you showed me them my friend,

but still i am mission you.



my love gose out to all your friends and family bud know we all miss you.



Love and light

Stephon

JASON'S LEGACY......

I WILL NEVER LOOK AT A CANDLE IN THE SAME WAY AGAIN.

I WILL NEVER HEAR A SONG WITH TEQUILLA IN IT, WITHOUT A SMILE AND A TEAR.

I STILL CAN'T BRING MYSELF TO PLAY POOL YET...WITH THE CUE YOU AND GERALD GAVE ME FOR MY BIRTHDAY..AND ASKED...."IS PURPLE YOUR COLOR?" YOU WERE ALWAYS THERE FOR THE "FIRST GAME"

I WILL BE MORE BOLD ONLINE.

WHEN SOMEONE SAYS "I HAVE A QUESTION" I WILL BE REMEMBERING OUR LONG CONVERSATIONS, AND WILL HAVE TO SNAP BACK TO REALITY.

I WON'T BE ABLE TO ASSUME THAT JASON HAS MY BACK...OR DOES HE STILL?

JASON, MY FRIEND, EMPLOYEE & BUD...

YOU WILL BE ETERNALLY MISSED AND NEVER FORGOTTEN IN THIS LIFETIME. YOU HAVE TOUCHED ME DEEPLY.

WE WILL GO ON, TO THE BEST OF OUR ABILITIES WITHOUT YOU...REMEMBERING THE GOOD TIMES, OF WHICH THERE WERE MANY.

SAVE ME A FRONT ROW SEAT!

PATRICK

From my daughter Jennifer who dearly loved her Uncle Jason' she sent this to me and I thought I would share, check out the photo..

Somewher
e in my dreams tonight
I'll see you standing there
You look at me with a smile
"Life isn't always fair"

You say you were chosen for his garden
His preciously hand picked bouquet
"God really needed me,
That's why I couldn't stay"

It's said to be that angels
Are sent from above
I've always had my angel
My brother - whose heart was filled with love

Wherever the ocean meets the sky
There will be memories of you and I
When I look up at that sky so blue
All I see are visions of you.
Love you mom and I share your grief, Jennifer

Phyllis, I am so sorry to hear about Jason, my prayers and concern are with you and your family at this time..

Your previous banker, Wachovia, retired, Jo Ann

Jason, I miss you terribly! This just doesn’t seem real. You’ve been my friend since Kindergarten. I never thought I would lose you...never pictured my life without you. You’ve been like a brother to me...always there when I needed you never asking for anything in return. I’ll always cherish the times we spent together especially our long talks on the swing that usually lasted into the wee morning hours. We’ve laughed together, cried together, played pranks on one another, gotten angry at each other, and eventually went in different directions in life but we still managed to hold on to our friendship, our bond. We’ve had a lot of fun times together over the years...with Linda and Chuck, Caroline, Darrell, and Patricia. And yes, I’ll never forget how you twirled your hair...sometimes I thought you would twirl it right out of your head :o). Jason, you’ve kept me sane throughout all the hard times and were with me to enjoy the good ones. We've shared so much with each other over the years. I only hope I helped you as much as you've helped me. You were such a wonderful, caring, compassionate, honest, fun-loving, giving, and free spirited person who consistently put others’ needs ahead of your own. All you ever wanted was to be happy and for people around you to be happy. Jason, whether you knew it or not, you made us all so, so happy. It’s going to be so hard not having you here. My only wish is that I can be as good a friend as you have been to me and so many others. My heart aches because I won’t get to hear your voice or your laugh. You’ve always been and will continue to be in my prayers. I will never stop loving you! You mean the world to me, Jason. Thank you for being there when I needed you, for supporting me in the decisions I made even when you didn’t agree with them, and especially for loving me for who I was. Stephen, the boys and I will miss you so much and we'll never forget you. Rest peacefully my friend! My deepest sympathy is extended to Ms. Shand and the family. Ms. Shand, you raised a wonderful son...you should be extremely proud of the man Jason had become. He’ll never be forgotten!

Although I could fill PAGES with memories of Jason, I will just thank him. Thank you, Jason, for being one of the first friends I had when I moved to South Carolina in 1990. Thank you for the artwork you did, which has hung in my guest room since I moved to my first home in 2000. Thanks for your humor, your practical jokes, your frankness and your comfort. I hadn't seen you in years, & had recently been in contact with you again through my sister...now I very much regret not making it up to Patrick's several weeks ago to catch back up. Nobody ever knows. I cannot believe this is even real . . . but we love you, & miss you very much. I know you know that. I can only imagine the faces you are making as you observe this process, and what you must be wanting to say.



For your mother & sister, I wish you both the fortitude you will need to move forward. I knew you both long ago, and know how much you all loved each other, despite silly squabbles or geographical distance. Sherie, I still have the doll you made for me years ago when Jason brought Michael Pritchard & I for a visit with you in Georgia. I have placed her near Jason’s artwork and will light a candle each night this week in remembrance of all of the fun, fond and sometimes even aggravating times with Jason that I was able to share. He was real, and never afraid to show it.

I just found out last night. I am in complete shock. I met Jason back in 1988 and were close friends. Over the years we drifted apart but I can tell from reading the other entries in this guest book that Jason never changed. He had a heart of gold and constantly put others ahead of himself. I e-mailed Jason a few times over the past couple of years and he told me that he was happy. I just wish I could have spent time with him before he left us. We always think we have tomorrow to do something you have always wanted to do, call an old friend, or even tell your loved ones how much they mean to you...

Jason,

I don't know where to start. Words can never describe how much you meant to me. You have been a wonderful friend since the sixth grade. I will always remember how you taught me how to pitch pennies in the sixth grade. I cannot believe you are gone! I am still in a state of shock. I remember all of the great times we had. Especially, you, me and Paula. You will always be a part of my heart. You have always been there for me no matter what time, day or night. We have laughed together, cried together and loved life together. What a sincere, compassionate, fun loving, wonderful person you were and always a great dedicated friend. I will miss you more than words will ever say and your memories will always be with me. I wish I could have said goodbye, but I didn't. I wish I could hear your crazy laugh, just one last time, but I won't. I'd give anything to see you one last time, to tell you how much you mean to me, but I can't. I will always always always love you and I will always keep your spirit alive in my heart. Please look down at me and know that I'm smiling, because of the chance I had to know you. Paula and I won't know how to go on without you. We had so many good times together. I love you and will miss you so much. My condolences go out to Ms. Shand and the rest of your family. With such fond memories of you, we will keep you alive.

Jason.....You were alway there for my family and grandmother over the years and i thank u for that. words cant explain how we feel right now but we know that u are in a better place.

I never had the chance to meet you face to face but you were a sweet person to chat with from time to time online...SMile down on all of us from up there...

Jason...there are no words to describe my love for you. We have been friends since first grade. I think of you as my brother. Thank you for always being there...to cry, to laugh, to scream, whatever it was...I could always count on you. I will miss you, but the light of your spirit will forever burn in my heart. I love you!

Jason was a great person who you could always count on for a laugh. He was always there when you needed him and he will not be forgotten. God speed.

My thoughts and prayers go out to Jason's family. Jason, you will be missed.

I thought I saw your face today,
in the sparkle of the morning sun.
And then I heard the angel say,
"Their work on earth is done."

I thought I heard your voice today,
then laugh your hearty laugh.
And then I heard the angel say,
"There's peace dear one at last."

I thought I felt your touch today,
in the breeze that rustled by.
And then I heard the angel say,
"The spirit never dies."

I thought I saw my broken heart,
in the crescent of the moon.
And then I heard the angel say,
"The Lord is coming soon."

I thought that you had left me,
for the stars so far above.
And then I heard the angel say,
"They left you with their love."

I thought that I would miss you so,
and never find my way.
And then I heard the angel say,
"They're with you every day."
"The sun, the wind, the moon, the stars,
will forever be around,
reminding you of the love you shared,
and the peace they've finally found."

Bobbi Davis

My friend i am not sure i ever told u i loved u enough but i am sure u knew it thanks for the laughs and your kind smile

Jason was always a nice person, He always treated everyone like a friend, It's such a shame what happened to him. Friends like him are hard to find.

I enjoyed knowing him. He will Be Missed Greatly!

Jason, you will always be on my mind, for now & always. Every time my sister & I go into Patrick"s we will have a glass of red wine in your memory. For now & always you will be loved & dearly missed.My prayers are with you & your family.

I shall miss you dearly Jason, for every time I go to Patrick.s I,ll forever miss your lovely face. My prayers are with you & your family. You will dearly be missed, but always loved.

I had the opportunity to make friends with Jason a few years ago. He was a kind and caring person and will be missed greatly. My condolences to all his friends and family.

My fondest memory of Jason was when me, him and Ken went to DC. It was one of the best times I have ever had. Jason had a spirit that was sometimes bigger than life. It made him irresistable and his laugh was infectious. My heartfelt sympathies go out to Phyllis and her family. Jason will truly be missed.

Our prayers and hearts are with you..

Members of the Trident knights

Jason was definitely a caring individual. When I first moved to town, Jason was one of the first to welcome me to Charleston and truly make me feel welcome. Throughout the years, Jason has been a joy to be around and will be deeply missed by all who knew him. His family and friends are in my continued prayers.

Jason was a great friend.He was always kind, helpful, and fun to be around.When you were down he could make you laugh and forget about what was bothering you. He really made you feel welcome , and like you were a part of his family. Jason wil be missed very very much.

Thanks for all the fun times Jason.

My sympathies to each of you in Jason's family. He was a genuinely kind young man who was always supportive of those around him and of this community. His generosity went beyond monetary support. His creativity, skilled abilities and infectious smile will be remembered forever.

You should be proud of him as we are proud to call him our friend.

Iam a memeber of the Trident Knights and have known Jason since becoming associated with them. No matter how busy he might have been Jason always had a smile and kind word. My heart felt sympathies are with you at this time of grief.

Dear Jason,



Aneesah and I will miss you something awful. You were a good friend to us. Kind to all around you, even our cousin Douala that totally crashed your party a few years back. You spoke no ill of anyone, and is showed that you cared about others. It was a privilege to be a part of your life and a blessing to have you in ours.

To the Shand Family I extend the condolences of Aneesah and Samuel Cooper.

To Phyllis and the family, this hits home even though we have scattered. I remember when Jason was born and all of the Girl Scout days. He and my Susie were less than a month apart in age and "tag-a-long" with scouts. Phyllis' Birthday party with him was so wonderful. I will miss him. My heart goes out to you all. Joye

Jason was my partner in love and life for 6 years. He was an incredible man. I will always cherish the many good times we had together. His wonderful Mom Phyllis used to regularly cook us our favorite meal of her "best in the world" fried pork chops and the 3 of us would sit at the dinner table, talking, eating, laughing and enjoying being a family. Another favorite memory is all of the years we loaded up the van and went to Atlanta Gay Pride. We had the most priceless times with Jason's sister Sherie, my sister Amelia, and friends Bobbie, Michael & Clay Burch, Joel, and Don. Jason...there's so many more things I needed to say to you before you left. You will always have a very special place in my heart. I also want to offer my deepest sympathy to your wonderful family.
With Love,
Ken

Jason, was the type of person that could make friends with anyone just by saying hello,I met Jason going on three years "man the time has gone by so fast"he was a true friend and those are so hard to find anymore,he always had a shoulder to cry on if needed and a laugh to pick you up when you'r down,I'll miss you Jason, Love You mean it

I was often in Patrick's with friends. I don't drink for medical reasons. Jason was outstanding in making sure that my water glass never ran dry. He will be missed by our family and friends.

Jason, what can I say, you were always such a joy to be with. I can not thank you enough for the countless times you caused the sun to shine on our days. Always having kind and true words, you were undoubtedly an invaluable friend at all times. I just hope we were able to do the same for you. Thank you for being a part of our lives, we will miss you deeply.



Love Ed and Jess

To the family of Jason Shand:

Gary and I wish to extend our heartfelt condolences to each of you. Jason was a great young man, and a truly treasured friend of ours. He always went out of his way to make you feel comfortable, make you feel welcomed, and he always made you feel as if you were a true friend! I will greatly miss him, and his kind and friendly gestures.

Jason, you are now at peace and you will be greatly missed!

Tony and Gary

Jason was a man of countless gentle words, and continuously had a way to make you smile; he is greatly loved and sincerely missed, and will be in our hearts forever. Jason, my friend, you are in our thoughts and prayers, and I would like to thank you for making not just Patrick’s, but Charleston a place to call home. Although we shed our tears now, laughter will once more fill the air in remembrance of a man who celebrated life. My deepest sympathies to the Shand family; Jason was a big part of many of our lives, and we all feel your loss. He touched our hearts, souls and lives, the way only Jason knew how, and we mourn his passing with you.

Jason was a man of various compassionate words and continuously one to make you smile. He is loved dearly and will be sincerely missed, although we shed our tears now, laughter will fill the air in remembrance to a man who always celebrated life. Jason, my friend, you will be forever in our hearts, and thank you, just for being who you were, and making not just Patrick’s, but Charleston a place for us to call home.