Jason Pessier Obituary

April10th (The Day You Were Taken Away) I never thought there’d be a date that I truly would despis But April 10th is that date because it took you from my side. The pain is so over whelming. It tears me up inside. To know the most important thing in my life was taken from me & died. And though we’ve heard the term heartbroken used so many times in stride. You’ll never really know it’s meaning unless your child is taken from your side. Some days I hear your voice in the leaves as they gently blow. Then other days I hear your laughter from the songbirds flying to & fro. And then my sweet Jason I close my eyes and know you are able to feel how much I love you and how much I miss you so. So here on out April 10th is a very hated date you see. April 10th is the date that my Jason was taken away from me. Poem written & felt by Vickey (Weebee) Heberling Jason’s Mom

Well Baby, its been a year now and I can honestly say that it hasn't gotten much easier without you here.>smile< Its hard to believe that you are really gone and not just on one of your rediculous (yet fun) journeys.>smile< You know, the ones that lead moving outta town or state, hell or even on the open seas!>grin< My last entry said that I realized that it was time to pick up and move on...well I still have to tell myself that everyday! I miss you so much. Your mom and Mark offered me to live with them if I needed a place to stay. You have no idea what this means to me. I know why you held her in such high reguards and protected her all these years. She is truly an amazing woman. I wish I had half her strength.>smile< And Mark is truly an amazing guy for taking care of her and picking her up through all of this.>smile< I have grown to love your family and claim them for my own.>smile< I just wish you were here to enjoy them with me. What am I saying, you are here.>smile< I know this to be true....I see the little things that mark you all the time. The little things you move around and the the insight you send my way. Thanks for giving me the heads up on things!>wink< Like I said beautiful, I miss you more than I can ever express, but I am sure I will get through, if not your (my new) mom will push me through.>smile< Anyway, take care up there and take care of your brother too, tell him I said Hi! I will do my best to watch after everyone here for you. I love you Kid! Oh yea, I just realized something......took me long enough, you know those really awesome angel wings that you always wanted to make? Well, how do they feel?>wink< Kisses and love Jason.
Forever Yours,
Mikal

I know I'm a few days late, but it was just hard for me to open this book. I am so glad you were born 26 years ago. And so very glad I got to spend 17 of those years as your friend. I miss you more than words can say. I actually feel that since you have been gone my life has been on a downward spiral. Upon feeling this, I realize that life must carry on as if you were still here. Cause I guess, in a way, you still are.>smile< Its on this notion that I must pick myself up and forge through the dark waters that have surrounded me. You are my light Jason, and I know you wouldn't want to see me like this. I know bad things happen to good people and that there is a reason for everything. I will never understand the reason for you leaving but I never wanted to know the pain of losong you. I can't celebrate your birthday here with you, but I can celebrate YOU! So here's to all you have meant to me and still do. Here's to all that we have shared and to being by your side again one day! I love you with all my heart and soul Jason, I wish you were here with me, I need you so much but I will have to make do for myself. Besides, I have a loving and caring friend in my life, one that I know I can rely on and turn to. One might call her my second mother! So, I should celebrate her as well for giving me the pleasure of knowing you...Her;es to you Wee, I love you so much, thanks for giving birth to my companion and life long friend. Also thanks for being there for me and loving me in your WEEBEE way! I love you both! Happy Birthday Jason! Much Love My Friend!

It's your Birthday today Jason! & it's almost been a year since U left to go do all those very special things that needed to be done. I'm on nightshift this week. But before I left the house for work lastnight. I left U a big note like I always did. & it said Happy Birthday jason & I wrote U a note telling U how much I love & miss U. I taped the note up on a shelf that I some of your pictures on. I know U will see it because I know U are with me all the time. U will always be in my heart & soul & I miss U more today then I did yesterday & I will miss U even more tomorrow. U would of been 34 years old today. I know where U are at age does not matter. & U are happy & safe & are doing so many wondeful things for others that need U. But it still doesnt make me not miss U any less. I do & I always will. What's that old saying... A Mother holds her children's hand for a while....& their hearts forever. & U are always in my heart! I love & miss U so very much Jason! Love forever Mom! Ps.. I can't think of a better way to say how much I miss U then by saying this......

In my dreams, you are alive and well
Precious child, precious child
In my mind, I see you clear as a bell
Precious child, precious child

In my soul, there is a hole
That can never be filled
But in my heart, there is hope
'Cause you are with me still

In my heart, you live on
Always there never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart

In my plans, I was the first to leave
Precious child, precious child
But in this world, I was left here to grieve
Precious child, my precious child

In my soul, there is a hole
That can never be filled
But in my heart there is hope
And you are with me still

In my heart you live on
Always there, never gone
Precious child, you left too soon,
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart

God knows I want to hold you,
See you, touch you
And maybe there's a heaven
And someday I will again
Please know you are not forgotten until then
In my heart you live on
Always there never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart

Please accept my deepest sympathies.

Mrs Vickie and Mr Mark
I can't even begin to explain how blessed I was to meet Jason and somehow always get him to come back :) We always seemed to find each other. He was there for me in way that nobody else could have been and he helped me stay strong through times I didn't think I could. I miss him more everyday and think about him all the time. My thougths and prayers will always be with you and I'm always here if y'al ever need anything. Thank you so much for him. He was truly a great friend with the biggest heart of anybody I know.
Ashley

Hey Aunt Vickey, I just wanted to let you know that Jason will always been in my heart. He will never be forgotten!

Sis,
Well what can I say except Jason was a one of a kind newphew.My first, and best and probably last. There is so much I can say about him, even maybe write a book, but ill make it simple. Anyone who meet Jason loved him..I also know how much he loved his MoM and how much he meant to her..(The World).
What happened was a tragedy, but I feel it must have been his time to go and share his life with other people, who will appreciate his talents and for who he is.. You and jason will always be in my prayers, forever... Love Your sister, Michelle

To Jason's Mother... Although I never met you,
Jason talked about you so
much. We first got to know
each other while he and Rian
were together, and we all
became joined at the hip. I
just wanted to tell you what
I know you've already heard a
million times. Jason was an
unbelievable friend and what
he gave me (love,
understanding, unconditional
friendship, support,and some of
the most crazy times of my
life), i will always be
greatful. Thank you for
Jason. I'll always love him.
I still hope to one day meet you
and thank you face to
face. Thank you,
Melody
(greenville,s.c.)

Vicki and Mark,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you both and your entire family in this time of loss. Johnny and I just wish we could have gotten to know Jason more. We would always speak but never had a chance to talk. Jason will always be with you because of the bond that ONLY the two of you had. Always hold him in your heart and never let him or his memories go. You all have been great friends and neighbors. If you need us for anything, please do not hesitate. We are always here for ya'll..
Love, Johnny Fran & Ashlyn

Vickie,
I dont know if your realize it but I was always so very fond of Jason.He was a fine young man.I remember him as a child and how polite and respectfull he always was to me.We had several chances to talk over the years and i always enjoyed his pure joy and understanding for life.My deepest Sympathy and Prayers are sent to you and your family with this short note.True heart felt prayers.He was very much loved by his brother and sister.I will always remember him with a smile!



Gail Tobey

Jason is a good person and he worked very hard to be what he is. His talents are incredible. He is one of God's natural angels, and I for one am so glad that we were friends. He is a child of God and he lives in each one of us and the many others that we don't know of that he came across. We all are so privileged to know the wonderful person in Jason.

Once we are conceived, we are guaranteed two successes in our lives: 1) that we will be born upon conception and how far that journey takes us is according to the plans of God,; and 2) that we die here on earth but are reborn at the next level of life so we really haven't died at all, we just moved over.

Jason has not died; he has been reborn in the Kingdom of God, a place where he so deserved to be. We can not be selfish to not let him go where God needs him to be. He is now on his next mission. God needs angels to watch over us and guardian angels for the children of the world--he chose a good one in this one. He has a very special plan for Jason, and it is not for us to question, but you, Wee--in particular, you will know and feel that mission, it will be told to you because you gave him birth.

He will continue to live in each one of us, which is why we are here, so that we as a group can heal and hold him as close as we can and know and feel the energy of true love like there is no other. Jason would not want us to be unhappy but understands that we are sad. He is a lively person and would want us to be a bright and fun and happy as we can be.

My sister always says if there is more then three, it is a collection, well the testimony of those here is proof he has a collection of very special people in his world that made a difference in his life and most of all, proven loved.

Vicky (Wee) and Mark, I can not imagine the emptiness you feel; but then the fullness that you feel from the impact of the love of Jason had on so many lives as witnessed here. Yes, he had hard times and he had a lot of failures..but we all do..But he also had a lot success too. Look around you, this is what is meant by real success. Success is not about the money, the property, the executive levels of a working world; life is about living from day-to-day in the arms of those you love, on the wings of God above, and carrying that in you with everything you do....
...and Jason did that with laughter, karizma, and flare. I know that this entire family love him and I know that he loved you too because you as a family accepted his great artistic and creative abilities with all levels of life.

I love you both and I loved Jason too. Peace my dear friend.

I was always amazed by Jason’s talent. He could make the simplest things beautiful and the most mundane events exciting. He always stood true to what he believed. Cousin Jason was only a little older than me and his time here has helped me realize how short and precious our lives are. Jason has a special place in my heart, and is loved even thought he has moved on.

Aunt Vickie, Your words have truly moved me. I admire your strength and love your understanding of our life’s path. I love you!

Jason will forever stay in our hearts as a young and talented son, brother, cousin and most importantly, a friend. Jason has always been a shining star on this earth.
Auntie Wee and Mark, I love you both.

Julie

I remember when Jason was a new born little baby. And how sweet he was as he grew into such a beautiful little boy. He looked just like his mommie. He had such talent and was so fun loving. His friends all said how he was always there for them. We will miss him so very much. He and my girls were like stepping stones. Jason, then Jennie then Julie. I know he is where he needs to be and even though we wish he was still with us, Jason will be helping others wherever he is now. I loved Jason and will always remember him with his beautiful smile.

The moving finger writes; and, having writ
Moves on; nor all they piety nor wit
Shall lure it back to cancel half a line
Nor all thy tears wash out a word of it.
RIP Jason

God took a loving young man ,who we both loved dearly. Hope to see you again in the next life.

love uncle joey & aunt tammy

To All of Jason's friends, Today was suppose to be my
last day of work before we go on our 7 days off. I woke up this morning &
knew. This was the day for me to really grieve. If U think about it. I haven't
been allowed to really grieve yet. & I knew this was the one day that I could
have alone with Just Jason & myself. So I asked Mark when he went in this
morning to work to explain I won't be in today. I have finally had a chance to think
about all that have happened & I have cried with what is left of my heart &
talked my heart out to Jason without being interrupted. It was good I took today
off. I really needed it. I know it is hard to explain where folks will
understand. Yes Jason is my son. & I'm his Mom. But we also had the most amazing
bond between us. It's strange how when things like this happen & you finally have
time to wonder & think. The answers come right to you. I am so grateful that I
had the 33 years to get to know & to love the most beautiful & talented
person that I have ever met. I was given the special gift of being able to take
care & love someone very special until he was needed elsewhere. I was his
rock & he was my rose and we taught each other so many things about life. & even
though, I gave him life 33 years ago. He was my life! But no need to try to
explain it here to ya'll. Like I have always said. Life is a big lesson. I
know Jason taught me meany things just as I taught him how to love himself &
to always be proud of who he was. I know how he affected my life but I was
amazed at how he affected so many others! The things his friends told me at &
after the funeral made me feel so very proud. It does my heart good to know
Jason knew how to love & he was always there for all his friends. They all
really did adore him. Since he returned from the cruise ship in Dec. up until
his last day I got to talk to him while he was alive. He did some of the most
amazing things!!! If I had of only realized it then. He was getting ready to go
on that very special mission. U would not believe some of the talks we had.
He was preparing me for his leaving. I do understand that now. I thanked him today for
me being the one that was picked to raise him & nurture him & instill in his
being what a good person is all about. He taught me patience &
understanding. & I taught him love, respect & to believe in himself & to always hold his
head high. We knew we each loved each other to no end. & that is what true
love is. There is no end to love. It keeps going & going. And to all of his wonderful loving friends. Even though I did not know some of you by face. Believe me when I tell you I knew all of your names. Jason loved you all so much. When you hurt. He hurt. When you were happy. He was happy. Please remember and keep Jason in your hearts and what he stood for. I know as I write this he is redesigning all the angels wardrobes and fixing their wings along with giving some of them that special hairdo that only he knew how to do. Jason was & is the best thing that ever happened to me & I feel very blessed to have had him for the short time that I did. Jason is my son, Jason is my Aries and Jason is my heart. Keep his memory alive by loving and accepting each other and always hold your heads up high and believe in yourself. I feel like you are all apart of me. Because you were all so much apart of him and his life. If any of you ever need to talk I hope you know I will always be there for you as you were there for Jason. I will miss being able to listen to his laugh and miss being able to touch his face. But I will always have him with me in my heart and in my soul. & I know he is now looking after me as I had always looked after him. This note is a small way that I could tell you all how much I love you all for loving my son so much. I love you all, Vickey(Wee) *Jason's Mom*

Wee Mark and Family,
Our deepest sympathy and love for your loss. We will always be here for you if needed. God be with you all.
Bigun and Sheryl in Columbia

Jason (Aries) touched my life in so many ways. He taught me how to master my passion, make up. He taught me to that no matter what anyone else thinks about you to hold your head up high. He was as close to me as anyone could be. We had our share of lkove and hate>smile<, but who doesn't. Through it all we never held grudges against each other and always picked up where we left off in our lives. He was there for me at a time in my life when I felt there was nothing left to live for. He lifted me up and helped my through it all. When my father (my Hero) died, he was there. When I had lost almost everything I had to a sour relationship, he was there. Jason always tried to make sure that I was taken care of and I did the same for him. There wasn't anything that either of us wouldn't do for the other. He will forever be in my heart and his soul a part of me. "Wee", I know what his life meant to me and can not even begin to imagine what it meant to you. I know that no mother should have to endure what you have gone through but like you said, he was meant to live with you and be with you as long as he was. My heart goes out to you and just know that I am here to share with you this loss and remember...

To lose anyonye is a terrible thing
To lose a loved one hurts even worse
Nature heals everything much like an open wound
Nature is a powerful aly
The healing process has a beginning, a middle and an end,
Keep in mind in the beginning that there is an end
Again Nature is a powerful aly
Just keep telling your self
that he is alive in you....in all of us.
I am here for you if you need someone to cry with or on.>smile< I am here if you just want to talk. Just know that if you need something, I am here. My heart goes out to you and Steve.
Michael Hope

I cannot begin at this point to understand losing someone close,or what to even begin to say, my deepest sympathies are with you as a mother for your loss.....your son.....and for Mikey..... a true best friend...I can only say that the ARIES stars in the night's sky will burn forever brighter....and to Mikey Hope carry on how Jason would want you to....not giving up but the exact opposite continue what he pushed you to achieve... do not give up what he loved and encouraged you to do I think he would want you to go on and be what he knew you could be...give 210% now and you burn bright.... like the Airies stars for they are now bigger and brighter than ever.

Sincerely, with love
Diana Tisdale

I have known Jason for many years now; he has always been a part of our family. What I will remember the most about Jason was his eagerness to help us out in times of need. He had a good heart and always meant well. If there is anything at all we can do for you, please don't hesitate. Our thoughts and prayers go out to your entire family.

Mrs. Vickie and Mr. Mark. My deepest symphanties are with you all. Mrs. Vickie, what a fine young man Jason is and you were his eveything. He loved you with all that was in his soul. The past month with him has been adventurous and spontaneous. I have enjoyed every moment of it. Especially my heart. Jason's smile, laugh, and humor will forever live in my heart. What an extraordinary MAN he was and is. For those who know him, we all have been blessed with an angel. May he live within our heart and soul.

Wee & Mark & Family:
Our hearts ache for your loss.
Jason was a beautiful spirit who shone brightly while here. He was a talented artist, and designer who brought beauty to others. I know you will miss his energy and spirit. I know you will forever hear him calling 'Mom'!
(HUGS) to all of you.
Sincerely
DamnitDon and Iron

I'm very sorry for your lose,I only knew him for a short time ,But he brighten up my days. He will always be remembered.

Please know you are in the prayers of so many who care.

Although Jason and myself weren't close everyday friends; we grew up around each other and became distant friends. My heart swells with sorrow for the family and friends of Jason. I am deeply saddened by his umtimely death. Count on prayers from my family to the family and friends of Jason Pessier.

A shining light in my heart. How lucky I am to have shared a moment of your life. All of my love to your family. Love Forever, Carmen

Wee and Mark,
I am so truly sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. I can't even come close to understand your pain. I am at a loss for the right words of comfort for you all. I want you to know even though I am so far from all of you, you are in my thoughts and prayers. I love you guys.

Jason was always there for me. It did not matter what the circumstances, he was always there to lend a hand, or to make you feel like you were the only one in the world. I will miss you guy---heaven is lucky to have you.

Vickey, I know that your pain must be absolutely unbearable right now. You are in all my thoughts and prayers. I always cared about and loved Jason. He had a beautiful soul, and always knew how to make all of us smile even during the hardest of times. Your loss is immense.

i could never find a way to explain just how many ways you blessed my life by being such a beautiful friend. Thank you for all the love and happiness you gave me. I"ll always love you and will forever miss you.

Wee and Mark
Its always so sad when God needs one of his angels to come back, My heart is with you both Our deepest sympathy and prayers go out to you
With Love

Take comfort in knowing that now you have a special guardian angel to watch over you.

My Dear Sister-Friend and Mark,
You have always been there for me and I am here for you. Only meeting Jason the one time, I could see the energy that he had recieved from his mother. The ability to live life as he wanted..to be who he wanted to be..and to express his life as he loved it. Not too many people can say that they have done that, but Jason could!! I know there are no words that can take away the grief, but just remember, you guys have alot of people who care..who love ya..and you are in all of our hearts!!
Mary

My thoughts and prayers go out to Wee, Mark and the entire family at this time of sorrow.

The thought of your smile is yet still so clear, the sound of your voice as if I only heard it yesterday, the moment we meet I knew that your soul would forever be pressed into the memory of my mind. Jason thank you for being such a beautiful part of my life.

Jason a great man who I never met in person but always enjoyed talking to him on phone when I always call...gonna miss your voice....

There is no bond greater than that between a parent and child. My deepest condolences are with you as you grieve.

What a dear and powerful friend, I will forever miss him.
Being a mother myself, I can't imagine your grief, our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

With all of my love...

To my old friends Vickie and Bruce,

He was a shooting star destined to be an angel too early in our lives. Not just anyone comes into this life as a shooting star, they are pre chosen by God. Their parents bear the thunderous heartache of their passing into eternity but they will never lose sight of thier child's star. One day they will follow its light from this life into the next for a joyous reunion.

My heart aches for you both. God and the angels be with you. Love and Prayers.
Debra (Beckham) DuBois

Vickey, Ellie, Joe and the rest of the family we want you to know you are in all of our thoughts and prayers.
Karl, Kim and the family

Sweet soul... Your laughs, your hugs, and the friendship you shared with me will forever be a gift...

Vickey, I can't begin to imagine the suffering you are going thru. To you, Mark, Joey, Tammy and the rest of your family, my prayers are with you. May you feel God's peace and comfort surround you during this most difficult time and always.

My love and prayers go out to the family during this sad time of grief. Jason was a very dear friend of mine, so close I consider family. May his powerful energy live on through out all of us.....

i THINK i WILL FOREVER HEAR YOUR LAUGHTER AND VOICE IN MY EARS. WHENEVER I SEEMED TO PILE LIFE ON TOO HEAVY, YOU ALWAYS DID THE THING TO LIGHTEN THE LOAD. I KNOW i'LL SEE YOU AGAIN ONE DAY..BUT FOR NOW MY HEART AND SOUL CRY OUT AND MISS YOU..SO LONG ...UNTIL THEN.

Be Still

Be still like the grass on a melancholy summer day
Be still like desert shrub.

Be calm and you will hear your loved one speak, in the stillness, in the calm, their love resounds.

If you are still this promise I make, you will hear the voice of your loved one helping you along your way.

Although we met only briefly,You were one of the nicest most generous people i have ever met. My thoughts and prayers go out to your family. Thank you Jason, you were such a blessing to all that knew you, and you affected my life more than you will ever know.

To Jason's Mom: No one will ever know the pain you feel, but we do know the joy that Jason brought to your life and ours. He will never be forgotten.Our prayers are with you.

Though our time together was brief our friendship will endure through eternity. I can't imagine life without you Jason. To the family, may your memories of him so full of life and energy provide you with the comfort needed in this time of sorrow. I miss you Aries!

My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.