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Anthony DeStefano Obituary

Anthony Joseph DeStefano, Jr. CHARLESTON - Monday, March 4, 2012, Anthony Joseph DeStefano, Jr., husband of Margaret Kornahrens DeStefano, gave his soul back to his Maker with the hope that salvation was awaiting in return for a good life of faith and belief. His Mass of Christian Burial will be held Thursday, March 7, 2013 in Blessed Sacrament Catholic Church, 5 St. Teresa Drive, at 1:00 p.m. Rite of Committal, Magnolia Cemetery . The family will receive friends Wednesday between 5:00 and 8:00 p.m. in J. HENRY STUHR, INC., DOWNTOWN CHAPEL with a Wake Service at 7:30p.m. A. J. was born in Walterboro, South Carolina in 1931 and attended St. Patrick's Church as an altar boy and scout. He graduated from Bishop England High School and remained in contact with his lifetime friends and alumni. He was a member of Blessed Sacrament Church and past member of the Perpetual Eucharistic Adoration Chapel. He is also a past member and officer of the Knights of Columbus. He was employed by South Carolina Electric and Gas where he began as a clerk at Plant Hagood. He retired from his Columbia position as Group Manager for the Land and Right of Way Departments, including forestry, timber, lakes, leases and recreation. He was past president of Chapter 31 for North and South Carolina Right of Way Association and served on the board of directors for the International Right of Way Association. He was awarded Right Away agent of the year for North and South Carolina. A. J. was retired from the South Carolina Army National Guard since joining in 1948 at age 17. He was Sergeant Major/ Senior Operations Sergeant. He was an expert marksman in pistol and M1 and M16 rifle and on the SCNG State Championship rifle team for five years. He was awarded NCO of the year and the prestigious rank of E-9. He was a lifetime member of The Washington Light Infantry where he was Chairman of the Board of Officers and Commander of the Uniformed Company. He also served as banquet chairman and had the great honor of Toastmaster for General Westmoreland. He was past president of NCO Club of Company B. He was recently presented a State certificate of appreciation from Governor Haley in recognition for his service to the State of South Carolina and an honorary membership to WLI. The office of Charleston County Veteran Affairs awarded a certificate in appreciation for his many years of service to the community and our country serving in the South Carolina Army National Guard. He was recently promoted to Colonel. He was the state director of the Centennial Legion of Historic Military Command. He was a past board member and command sergeant for the Sumter Guard and past president of the Marion Marauders of Mt. Pleasant. He was a member of The Arion Society and The German Friendly Society. He was a past member of the Charleston Rifle Club and American Legion. He was a lifetime member of the Charleston Elks Lodge #4 BPOE. A.J. was known affectionately to many as "PaPa", daddy, Uncle A.J., Anthony Junior, Tony and Pete. He was an avid collector of coins, stamps, Jim Booth, gem stones and over 4000 beer cans and bottles from around the world. He had a love of music, painting and poetry. He was appointed Poet Lauriat of SC National Guard by the House of Representatives. The WLI also adopted his poem as the Creed and their insignia worn over the heart was designed by him. He is survived by his wife of 58 years; three daughters, six grandchildren and one great granddaughter. Donna DeStefano McDonald and Dirk McDonald live in Summerville with their sons, Dillon, Drayton and Dalton. JoAnn DeStefano Waller live on James Island and has two daughters, Kaylie and Chelsey. Toni DeStefano Vines lives West Ashley with her daughter, Christina. His great granddaughter, Ashlan Tayler McDonald lives in Walterboro. He was predeceased by his sisters, Jessie Marie DeStefano McKnight and Lois "Bootsie" Lilly. He will be missed by many. Memorials may be made to Washington Light Infantry, 287 Meeting Street, Charleston, SC 29401. A memorial message may be sent to the family by visiting our website at www.jhenrystuhr.com. Visit our guestbook at www.legacy.com/obituaries/ charleston

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Published by Charleston Post & Courier from Mar. 5 to Mar. 6, 2013.

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Rebecca Jean Anderson-G.

February 27, 2023

Toni My Long Time Friend, I am always thinking about you and your family. I hold you close to my heart. Keep those wonderful memories of your
blessed father. Love you much(Jean)

Perry Patrick

February 28, 2020

A wonderful friend. I miss him every time I enter the Armory. He is the reason I am what I am. He molded, guided and gave me the integrity to never give up, You can do it, I can still hear him saying it!
Thanks AJ, there will never be another like you
Perry

March 20, 2013

Toni, I just heard of your dads passing. I wish I was there for you. I remember the great memories I shared with you of my fathers passing. We now have two wonderful guardian angels watching over us. Love you. Michelle Dubay Wilson

March 16, 2013

Dear Margaret,
Mac and I just learned of Tony's death today. (3-16-13). We are so sorry and know you will miss him. We had such wonderful times with you here in Columbia during drill weekends. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and the family!
Love, Mac and Elaine Horton
Blythewood, SC

Toni Vines

March 8, 2013

I miss you today daddy and every day to follow

March 7, 2013

Toni, I'm thinking of you at this difficult time.
Evelyn Gaskins

March 7, 2013

Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers! Mary (Bean) Molony Bunch

Kathy Gaffos

March 7, 2013

Dear Joann,Mrs. DeStephano and family,
My love and thoughts are with you all...please accept my heartfelt condolences on your loss. He was a remarkable man and I'm sure his legacy will live on as you continue to remember him and his life well lived. May God bless and keep you all...

March 6, 2013

I am so sorry for your loss. I know how much he and Mrs. Destefano loved each other. God bless you. Our mom passed last January. Our prayers are always with you.

Tamra Evans and Christian McNeil

March 6, 2013

Joann and Family, you are in Christian's and my thoughts. Your dad was a wonderful, one-of-a-kind man and I know he loved you all very much. He will certainly be remembered and missed by many.

Adam Sutton

March 6, 2013

A Giant among men. Your influence will always be felt in the halls of the WLI armory.

Susan Salmonsen Varner

March 6, 2013

Mrs. Destefano and Family,
It was nice to be able to meet you and your husband over the past months. I am keeping you and your family in my prayers. Let the love of God wrap his loving arms around you and give you strength.

Andy and Diane Hogue

March 6, 2013

It was a pleasure being a member of AJ's family. He mentored me thru my career in the SCANG. He mentored me in my marriage and set the example on how to give back to your community. Even though he is gone AJ is still with me for the rest of my life. Aunt Margret we love you dearly and will give you the support of our family.

Perry Patrick

March 6, 2013

Words are hard to find when your good friend has gone before you. I'm a better person for having shared many years together in our military walk. AJ will surly be missed but as we go on, the experence that he left with us can only make our time here more productive.
So down to earth, never to important that he could not put his self on each persons' level to deal personally. Admired for his umbleness.
Margaret and family, thanks for sharing such a dear person to so many functions we were fortunate to be a part of.

Rebecca Jean Anderson-Gilliard

March 6, 2013

Toni, families and Friends:

The sincerely of my heart is with you all. Toni you spoke of your Father so often with much love and joy, honey keep all those good memories you have of him always in your heart....

March 6, 2013

DAVE CALDWELL MOSS POINT MS

Freddie Puckhaber

March 6, 2013

On behalf of the family of Charles J Simonin,our thoughts and prayers with you. We will always fondly remember the friendship that A.J. and Charles shared.

March 6, 2013

Though we never met this wonderful man,personally, we want you to know that our prayers and thoughts go out to the entire DeStefano family.
"What the heart has once owned, it shall never lose."
Shirley and John H Evans

John Farmer

March 6, 2013

A. J. was a patriot,a good family man, and a very good friend. I will certainly miss him as many will. My prayers go out to the family. GOD Bless.

March 6, 2013

Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.
Roxie Seltzer

Anne Marie Bollinger-Lutes

March 5, 2013

Thoughts and prayers go to the DeStefano family. His spirit will live forever and the wonderful memories will always remain! All my love!

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